Any contact with the person becomes as potent as a drug addiction. Friendship becomes emotional sex when the feel-good brain chemicals and hormones that are released when even thinking about that person take over.
I decided to go on a quest to discover what people were really wanting to talk about online and how much we are willing to divulge to strangers.
Strangely enough, it all went down very differently to how I’d imagined.
You become "friends" with an ex on Facebook and reminisce about the past. You spend hours thinking about them and your heart races whenever you see a text from them. You tell yourself it's ok because you're not really cheating, you're just chatting. Biochemical research has shown that the effect of these love chemicals is twofold: they are released in response to your friend, and they bond you to him or her.
Pretty soon, you find yourself glowing every time you spend time with this person. This is especially true of women who produce higher levels of oxytocin -- the bonding hormone that enhances the feeling of having found your "soul mate" connection.
That has always been a dangerous statement to make. That you are lonely and have no friends and have to resort to talking with strangers on the internet.
That you are totally fine talking with creepy people who are probably 50-year-old perverts wanting to have internet chat room sex with you.But it’s like a huge secret, we don’t talk about it.We may even see someone we know searching through profiles, but it’s pretty much like we don’t see them.I found a website where you can nominate to either be a ‘listener’ or a ‘venter’.Each person who went on the site was given a pseudonym that was randomly generated. I thought it would take a lot of small talk to discover what people were really looking to vent about. Each conversation I had began with the venter beginning with, It was refreshing to talk so openly and honestly with people, even if I didn’t know the full story.The sexual stimulation and release obtained through cybersex also contribute importantly to the continued pursuit of the activity, Dr. He wrote: "Intense orgasms from the minimal investment of a few keystrokes are powerfully reinforcing." He added, "Cybersex affords easy, inexpensive access to a myriad of ritualized encounters with idealized partners.