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Many times I’d go into a gay bar and see guys playing out some gross interracial porno in their heads—with me playing the part of their Chinese pocket gay. (Even with all the LGBT characters we have on TV now, what images do we have of Asian American ones? But short, heavy, average-looking/unconventionally attractive guys face rejection for not being tall, lean, or conventionally hot, just as you’ve faced rejection for not being white. “It’s hard for me to wrap my head around any six-foot-one, fit, VGL guy having trouble getting laid,” said Booster. I don’t really consider myself any of those things—and I have a perfectly respectable amount of sex.”Booster, who somehow manages to have plenty of sex in New York’s “white-painted gay community”, had some practical tips for you.
Others (the ones I was interested in, to be candid) would act as if I were wearing an invisibility cheongsam.”Chu feels there’s plenty of blame to go around for this sad state of affairs. ) It’s that LGBT-rights organizations still haven’t diversified enough, especially in their leadership. (The cultural baggage and biases that inform a preference for, say, tall guys are a lot less toxic than the cultural baggage and biases that inform a preference for white guys—duh, obviously.)“As a stereotypically short Chinese guy, my first reaction to reading EDDIE’s letter? “EDDIE should stay away from the apps if the experience becomes too negative,” he said.
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As I know it has for many diagnosed with HIV."—Joshua "I recently joined the site to simply peruse the personals in search of other poz men.
As a queer man of colour—I’m Asian—I feel wounded whenever I am exposed to gay men in New York City, Toronto, or any city where white gay men dominate.
Gay men, mostly whites and Asians, reject me because of my race and no one admits to their sexual racism.
“Racism still thrives in the gay community, just as in broader society,” said Chu.
“Many of us who are Asian American come out of the closet and walk into this weird bamboo cage, where we’re either fetishized or ignored. ) as proof you’ve faced sexual rejection based solely on your race. I, like many others, have internalized an ideal: tall, gym-perfected, blah blah blah—and, above all, white.”Booster was also struck by your stats.
Here's what they had to say: "Growing up, I loved romantic comedies that depicted the happy endings of straight couples.