Dating outside your comfort zone can be a breath of fresh air. Actually, forget the coffee altogether, a cup of tea with two sugars.
If you’re having trouble finding someone you can get along with after the honey-moon stage, maybe you should try dating outside your comfort zone. He smiles at you, makes you laugh, and as far as you know he’s not a serial killer.
He’s that guy at the office; he’s the charmer who always holds the door for you at the condo. what if in the middle of dinner the SWAT Team bursts into the restaurant and an episode of America’s Most Wanted ensues?!?!
It could be because I spent a few days outside – fresh air, amazing views, lots of laughter with great friends (and I didn’t have to worry about fixing dinner for 4 nights! There is something about challenging yourself, and doing something a bit different that gives you confidence, an edge, and a sense of accomplishment that does wonders for your personal growth.
I came back refreshed and renewed, and vowed I would do things like this more often. But, I strongly believe that it had a great deal more to do with the fact that I completely stepped outside of my comfort zone, got my adrenaline flowing, dealt with a little bit of fear and nervousness (OK, a lot of fear and nervousness), and did something I had never done before.
Why would I want to do anything different than my normal routine? They are often looking for someone else to bring excitement into their dull lives. If you are bored, or your life needs a little bit of excitement, create it yourself.
Why would I want to upset my apple cart and step outside my comfort zone? YOU are the one who will grow from these experiences and the growth is pretty cool because it is growth in learning something totally new, experiencing something completely different, and gaining additional confidence as you open more doors.I can’t describe this feeling, but it’s a comfort (more like a strength! Do something you have never done before that gets your adrenaline flowing just a bit (or a lot). For others, it might be joining a new club or group where you don’t know anyone. It might be taking up a new sport (even though you feel your body is going to protest loudly! The point is to do something – something different and outside of your normal routine!) in knowing that you stepped outside of your comfort zone. If something is “easy” or “safe” or your own “status quo,” then that would be a good place to try to switch things up! ” Why would I want to do something that makes me nervous? I listen to so many people, especially middle-aged friends, both those who are married or who are divorced and dating, who tell me they are bored of the same-old, same-old.Or when I ask the adorable guy reading the news on his i Pad what’s going on in the world, or even occasionally when I inquire what the cute guy on the elevator is doing this weekend..Cultivating new relationships is sometimes difficult for me, but I dig my heels into the ground and do it instead of running away.I’m a natural introvert in the body of a public relations professional.