If you don’t feel good about yourself, you will never truly believe that someone else can love you and you will constantly be on the lookout for the other shoe to drop, for the guy you care about to leave, thus validating the fact that you are unworthy of love.
A man with low self esteem is not man enough to be responsible. He is scared of failure and expectations being piled on him.
Some, even abandon the woman when she gets pregnant. It is always someone else at fault because he thinks mistakes make him small. A confident and mature man woos an adult woman to sex, he is secure in himself to charm her and they willingly both make passionate love.
Self-esteem doesn’t come from blowing kisses to your reflection in the mirror or repeating “I love myself” over and over.
It takes time and it takes work and it isn’t always easy.
A man has low self esteem if he feels inferior and worthless just because currently he lacks material wealth.
If he would rather hide in pornography than pursue a meaningful real relationship or marriage, he has low self esteem.
Did you break up over and over again, but then keep getting back together in hopes of making it work?
And did all that drama go on for months or even years wasting valuable time and so much energy that you felt exhausted (or even lost faith in love)?
Everyone’s path will be different, but no matter what, having a picture of what high self-esteem looks like, and how it can play out in relationships, is helpful and can help reveal the areas you may need to work on.
Having high self-esteem doesn’t guarantee a happy relationship, but it does equip you with the skills to identify what you want and realize you deserve to get it, and the strength to walk away if something falls short.
My heart jumped a little, and I’m not even into corny stuff like that. I didn’t realize it at the time, but he was actually exactly my type.