White girls have no problem spoiling their men with gifts.
Dating black guys vs white guys
He is simultaneously invisible and ever present in the minds and lives of white America. Debased, filthy and unworthy, black men, we are told, are sexual deviants incapable of either desiring or maintaining healthy, meaningful relationships.
In fact, at a recent fellowship dinner at Columbia Law School, a wealthy, white businessman told me that the biggest business problem occurring in America is the inability of black women to find [black] husbands.
As a gay white man and drag queen who is engaged to an African-American man, my interracial same-sex relationship has given me unique insight into the fundamental mistrust, and often subconscious disdain, that people have for anyone different from themselves.
Ask almost any white person in America and they will tell you straight out that they are not racist.
He declared that this travesty is rooted in the black man’s inability to commit, not just to a woman, but also to a job.
Upon picking my jaw off the floor, I concluded three important things: (1) my supposedly personal decisions regarding who I choose to fuck or date or marry are very much political, (2) so long as I date black men, I will carry their burden, and (3) while my decision to primarily date black men is a conscious one, it is not necessarily simple.They all seem to have one thing in common: after 2-4 dates, they like to touch base with me during the week by sending me text messages to my cell phone!Although I appreciate them thinking about me in the middle of the day, if we have gone out on several dates, at what point is it appropriate to expect a 5 minute phone call a few times a week?You will hear everything from, "I have black friends" to "I voted for Obama" as evidence of their inclusive viewpoints.Yet, in the five years that I have been with my black partner, I have been amazed by the profoundly different ways in which each of us is treated in similar situations.From In Flex We Trust–The white girl topic is like the elephant in the room right now. “Everyone, this is Amber.” is WAY easier on the ears than, “Everyone, this is Shaniqua.” Just saying. White girls have WAY less restrictions in the bedroom than “other races.” You can basically do whatever, wherever with them.