The therapist can help you work through issues that normally trip you up. Dating can add a new depth to your life, but it can also add stress and upset if not handled correctly.
You receive objective feedback on how you respond and interact in conversations that you probably wouldn't get from a date. It is important to tell your date that you have ADD or ADHD before symptoms, such as chronic lateness, land you in hot water; or before your date misinterprets inattentive behavior.
Tackling all these issues at once can feel quite overwhelming, but finding the right partner is a good first step.
In order for the relationship to thrive, you must also be compatible with this person.
If you want to maintain the relationship over the long term, you must also address negative patterns that have gotten you in trouble in the past.
Rather than being “a broken man magnet” or “so desperate she’ll date anything”, I began to see how my ADHD impacted everything about my romantic relationships. There are many things about having ADHD that make my life amazing and better than it would be without it, but when it came to relationships, it is my Achilles heel.
So, in honor of Valentine’s Day, here are the 6 dating mistakes adults with ADHD are apt to make.
"Their dates see someone with a checkered job history.
Many people with ADHD get bored, so they job-hop; they get fired because they have difficulty handling details of the job," she explains.I would spend a year or two supporting an emotionally unavailable jackass who did nothing but make me feel bad about myself.One of the most transformative things about my diagnosis was getting to re-write this part of my story. It was the reason I was willing to rationalize away almost every kind of bad behavior….after all, I was no picnic myself.I am old enough to have a college age child and I don’t think I have ever been on a “date” at least not like the ones in the movies.I meet people and then I am in a relationship with them. This is a common problem amongst us ADHDers and the next 5 mistakes will help explain why.Meanwhile, "their date might be thinking, 'I don't know if this person is dependable.'" But Tschudi emphasizes that "when these people find their niche and find something that suits them — something with creativity and room to grow — then they can do quite well." People with ADHD can also bring a lot of joy and excitement to their relationships.