Might as well throw in the fact, that if you give an answer to even a question about a guy who is dating a girl that doens't want touch, hold hand, kiss, cuddle, nothing, and I say what the hell is with her for anyway, and why she even calls him a boyfriend, and how they are not compatible..get women telling me they are not compatible with me...they even had a damn chance. They will lose their reputation and they so got to fit in to..“What will people say about our daughter/son, who is dating someone older. That you're not mature enough, don't know much about life, not old enough. Not really/They care for themselves and how it looks on them. You can end up broke, living in the street and they won’t bother you but judge you. Opinions of what you cannot do, this and that is everywhere. So personally, from a guy who had to battle such things for years, who dates younger women - I'd say don't worry about what others thinks. It will be here even when you and I and most of people here are gone. If you both into each other, both want it to work...that's all that matters.You get people scared to speak up because they will have to go against the masses. Give it all you got..I hope you're both happy, and grow together, enjoying life and having a blast. Even though this guy and I were 25 years apart, we had a lot in common. I didn't know then that our age gap would define the relationship. I got that; but even though I knew there was no future, I didn’t cut it off completely. After it ended, he talked to a lot of people about our relationship -- and what happened through the grapevine was unexpected. Women judged me as having an ulterior, economic motive: “She just dated him for his money,” or “She thought she could get ahead.” In our society people are so quick to judge a young, naïve woman -- never the older man who perhaps should’ve known better too.
Dating an older man can teach you a lot, especially about yourself (and what you do and don’t want in a partner), but it’s not always the easiest of relationships. Just in case you’re thinking of getting serious with a fella quite a few years older or even decades older than you, here are a few things you might want to keep in mind before you get it crackin’.
Depending on how old the man you’re seeing is, he might have certain goals he’s trying to finish accomplishing.
fuckbuddy is bad, marriage is good, marriage is shit and hello to fuckbuddy, pologamy yes, to what the hell is this. You have to, so you live a life like you don't give a fuck what anyone thinks about who you date and what you do with your life. Nothing is definite except how you two are into each other and your both absolutely determined nothing gets in your way. If people want to make it work, they will make it work. You don't say it but you live like you OWN your life, CLAIM it and people can say anything they want because you don't need their acceptance, validation and approval.
If you wear some clothes, someone is going to tell you it's too short, too tight, too long, to colourful, too sexy and on.on. Yes, people will tell you a 16 year old married a 40, a 20 years old with a 38 years old, 3o with a 18 year old….blah blah and will make it that they so care for you. If they don’t then anything, and everything, from age, distance, time, this feeling or that feeling will be an excuse to be used to not make it work. Have the DON' T GIVE A FUCK ATTITUDE in your mind. Like I don't need anyone's acceptance and validation too.
Early on I used to have a fit every week about what he could do to make more time for me, but at a certain point, after some compromising, you end up just trying to be supportive and patient.
Besides, I wouldn’t want the finger pointed at me for having a part in keeping him from doing what he needs to do to get ahead.
I’m currently in a relationship with a fella the age of my older sister.
It has its perks and it has its bummer moments, but I think dating up in age is something that women should do at least once in life, even if it doesn’t turn into something serious.
I know a woman who dates an older man, and he jumps from profession to profession while trying to make a career in music take off.
But the guy I’m dating is focused on taking his career to the next level.
And many reasons to fall in love which outsiders are not privy to, and are not necessarily their business.