However, you will always feel you've been true to yourself -- and that you haven't become somebody else's clone.
In a way, it makes sense: he listens to your pointless rants and remembers your birthday, and you obviously enjoy hanging out with him. Sometimes, dating feels like a cruel game of “20 Questions.” When you date a guy who’s already your friend, you can skip the small talk.
But like any other type of relationship, this kind of romance has its drawbacks. “We already knew each other extremely well when we started dating, so we didn’t have that awkward ‘getting to know each other’ period,” says Julie*, a senior at Northeastern University who dated her male best friend.
It may be weird to start thinking of him in "that way," but it all comes down to two words: shared history. Here are ten reasons to help push you over the edge.1. He knows you've always wanted a big family, and you know he'd like to be married by the time he's 30. There is no fear of the truth, no asking yourself, What if he doesn't want as many kids as I do? These secrets that we would normally be scared to share with a new partner for fear of judgment? And we're also less likely to care about them when we know they're just one small part of someone's past.5. Respect is so vital to a relationship, but sometimes that respect takes time to form.
Compromise is important in any relationship, and the best way to compromise is by starting with the truth. You need to get to know each other, learn one another's values and see each other in action. Wouldn't it be great to start a relationship and already have that respect in place?
There is risk of losing a friendship because your best friend may not feel the same way you do, thus becoming an uncomfortable situation whenever the two of you are together.
However, if the feelings are mutual, having your best friend in a romantic not only leads to a loving relationship built on trust and companionship.
Maybe your last option for a New Year's Eve date is really the best option.
You can spend your whole life looking for the man who loves you for who you truly are, knows about your oddest behaviors (that collection of ceramic pigs, your obsession, the joy you get out of dancing like a blind monkey) and still accepts you, or you can pick up your phone and call your best guy friend—because he already is that man.
Figure out what those things are and think hard about who you want to be, then present yourself honestly and genuinely to the people you hang around with.